When we find a treasure, we have a tendency to share our discovery. At the beginning of my spiritual path, I felt very enthusiastic about sharing the truths I was experiencing with others, especially my dear ones. But soon I discovered that apparently they were not receiving this information with the same intensity as I was. I also noticed that I used lots of effort and energy trying the difficult task of changing their points of view and widen their minds.
I realized that this effort was in vain. It is necessary to have an inner longing, an internal desire and deep interest to really accept and live according to the spiritual truths. I remember reading, “Only when the pupil is ready, the master appears.” I believe it is the same for everybody. We, as individual souls, are progressing in different ways at different speeds in our trip towards eternity, and we need to respect other people’s processes and not interfere too much in their lives.
Turning the perspective to the opposite way, I started thinking: “Maybe it is not me who is meant to teach them…what can I learn from them?” And my attitude towards them shifted from trying to indoctrinate them to just being there by their sides, listening to them, making them feel loved and really worrying and caring for them. I gradually felt less moved by the interest and more by the sincere desire to help and serve them in the best way I could. I experienced the reward of the joy and happiness they experienced. I started praying to God that all of us could be receptive to His grace. Our hearts opened to a greater understanding, learning one from another.
We, as devotees, have got the gift of valuable teachings that lead us in the right direction. We are learning the Truth and we thus have a responsibility. We may be an example for our dear ones, allowing that our attitude, our love and tenderness may gradually melt their hearts and start changing them from within.
Coming to personal relations, it is very helpful for me to see myself as if I was surrounded by “masters” who teach me in different ways. We often find people that really inspire and uplift us, and there are other people who do the opposite. It is our task to select our right companions and be as much as possible surrounded by God-seeking souls if we want to achieve greater results in our spiritual path. When dealing with others, we may use our awareness and keep our mind focused on the lessons we are learning from them.
Some of the experiences we go through are painful, others are blissful. What we are experiencing now is related with our past deeds and, furthermore, it is possible that we are bounded by karma to many of these “masters” around us and we have “unfinished issues” to be solved.
It is said that in the subsequent incarnations, we may be placed nearer and nearer to our difficult relationships, in order to finally allow us to solve these “unfinished issues”. Some of these close relationships may teach us great lessons, even “master degrees” in different subjects such as patience, love and understanding!
I try each time to see more beyond the physical appearance of the person and get in touch with the inner being inside, realizing that the Divine Mother is also shining inside that being. I try to be conscious of the situation and see what I can learn from it. Sometimes it is not easy, but it is an interesting challenge.
In my opinion, controlling not only our actions, but also our thoughts and emotions is of great importance. The better my feelings and emotions are, the better I manage the different situations taking place around me. I get to know the right persons, spiritually inclined; I am treated with more love and dignity, as I always try to treat others, and it appears I flow magically along my spiritual path.
I find that the attitude of surrender gives me an immanent sense of tranquility, which helps me to accept peacefully the challenges of my life and learn from them. Any time a difficulty arises, I offer it at the feet of the divine, and this really helps me to move on.
We are children of God, brothers and sisters brought up together in the arms of the Divine Mother.
I always remind myself that we are not walking an easy path, but one thing is for sure: it is the right one! So we are very lucky just being here, even if we have to struggle a bit.
I pray that we become able to see everything as it really is: a cosmic movie, a leela—the divine play of God—and that we play our roles with love and dignity, evolving and directing ourselves towards God. The important things are not the circumstances we are living in, but our thoughts and emotions arising from them.
Finally, it is all about cultivating love in the garden of our minds. This, I feel, might let us be a loving example for everyone.